Does He Like Me?
Women have been trying to figure out if a man is attracted to them since the beginning of time. The French figured out a way to settle the question with the “daisy game,” where a woman holds a daisy and picks off the petals one by one, saying, “He loves me,” “He loves me not” until only one petal is left. If the last petal represents “He loves me,” – well, people believed that was the answer.
Sometimes guys make it crystal clear that they are interested, but sometimes they play it cool to the point that it is hard for a woman to know what they are feeling. Fortunately, there are ways to figure out if that special someone is looking for a relationship. Some behaviors are dead giveaways, while others, like body language, are more subtle. To find out if the guy you like feels the same about you, start off with the obvious signs, and if they do not tell the whole story, move on to the more understated clues that can be tell-tale signs that a guy really likes you.
Tokens of Affection
Ok, so he sends you flowers for your birthday. Does he like you? Of course. But realistically, how often does that happen at the very beginning of a relationship? If he likes you, he wants to see you happy and smiling, and he may offer smaller tokens of his affection. These gifts can range from a simple card, candy or a handmade gift, to an elaborate piece of jewelry. He may even give away a prized or meaningful possession. If you find yourself on the receiving end of gifts, especially if they are presented on an ordinary day, it can be a sign that he likes you.
Texting and Calling
If a guy likes you, you are probably in his thoughts throughout the day. He may text you out of the blue just to say hi, or to ask a question. If he is really into you, he may actually pick up the phone and call to hear your voice. He may touch base about something you spoke about, try to find common ground by asking what music or food you like, or he may invent a far-fetched reason for the call. If he is the straightforward type, he may cut to the chase and ask you to go out with him. In any case, if he constantly contacts you, he is probably interested. If you were not on his mind, he would not reach out to you.
Coincidence, or Something More?
Say that you happen to mention you will be at the mall over the weekend, and lo and behold, you go to the mall and there he is with a group of friends. Is it just one of those happy coincidences, or was it planned? If the same thing happens a few days later and he shows up at your friend’s house when he knows you will be there or you see him at the movies after you mentioned the theater and the time you are going, chances are he is finding a way to spend time with you.
He Really Listens
Another sign that he likes you is that he really listens to what you have to say. Maybe you mentioned that your car is in the shop and you need a way to get downtown, and he offers to drive you. It is possible that he is just acting like a friend, but chances are, if this becomes a pattern, he really likes you. If you tell him that you love the little pizza place down the street and the next time you talk he suggests going there, not only did he hear what you had to say, he is acting on the information to make you happy.
Hugs and Glances
Hugs and glances can tell a lot about a man’s intentions. Friends hug each other in greeting all the time, so how do you figure out the difference between a friendly hug and a hug that means that the guy really likes you? The key is the duration of the hug. A friendly, platonic hug normally lasts no longer than five to ten seconds. Anything longer than that may not just mean “we’re just friends.” He may also stroke your back and sway slightly to show that he really cares for you. Eye contact, even if he looks away shyly at first when he sees you looking at him, can also indicate affection.
Although body language can be a subtle sign, you can pick up signals from the way he holds his body. Tilting his head when he looks at you, lifting his eyebrows briefly and flared nostrils can show he is interested. Notice if his chest and shoulders are pointed toward you. If so, he considers you the most significant thing in the room. A man who wants a relationship with you will also stand as close to you as possible, and take your arm to guide you through a crowd. He may also touch your arm if you say something amusing. When a man is flirting with you, he will laugh more often and use more gestures when he speaks. He may also smooth his hair or clothing, lick his lips and offer to take your hand with his palm up.
Becoming Part of your Life
If the guy makes it a point to ask about your friends and family, he may be showing that he wants to become a part of your world. This is a step up from just casual dating. If he actually asks to meet your parents, spends time with your little brother and hangs out with your friends to make a good impression, he is trying to show his interest in your personal relationships and become a part of your life. This important milestone bodes well for a future commitment from your guy.